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Thoughts and reflections
Writing about counselling, identity, relationships, shame, change, and the things we can understand intellectually but still struggle to feel differently about.
Some pieces begin with questions that come up often in counselling. Others sit with experiences that are harder to name, or with patterns we carry without quite realising it.
You do not need to find an answer in every piece. Sometimes recognising something of yourself is enough.
Online or in-person counselling: how do you choose?
Choosing between online and in-person counselling involves more than convenience. Explore how privacy,...
When bisexuality gets explained away
On bisexual erasure, the assumption that bisexuality is temporary, and what happens when someone else's...
Finding a counsellor who actually gets it
Familiarity can make finding a counsellor easier, but it is not the same as understanding. A reflection...
The cost of being easy to be around
Some people are very easy to be around. They notice what is needed before it is asked for, soften tension,...
When you're tired of translating yourself
Some people become very good at making themselves understandable to others. But constantly translating...
Still a performer, even with out a stage
When performing has shaped your identity for years, leaving the stage can bring more than a career change....
The shame that doesn't match the facts
Sometimes shame remains even when the facts have changed. Knowing something intellectually does not always...
What if I feel embarrassed about what I bring to counselling?
Some things can feel hard to say out loud, especially when they carry embarrassment or shame. Counselling...
When the show closes early
When a show closes early, the loss is not only financial. There can also be grief for the work, the people,...
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